Hello,
So this embed code has:
kaltura_swf.addParam("flashVars", "uid=Anonymous&externalInterfaceDisabled=false&layoutId=fullLarge&pd_original_url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.fios1news.com%2Flowerhudsonvalley%2Fnew-film-east-ramapo-school-district");
you can add autoPlay=false to that, which should work.
This utlises our legacy KDP player as opposed to the new HTML5 one.
However, I must say that at least for me, when loading the link you provided, the video did not auto play. Does it auto play on your browser?